Why women prefer butt plugs for anal sex

Anal orgasm is a topic that is based on ideas about sex. Many women are very attracted to the thought of anal orgasm, although a third of them have never experienced it. The number of pornographic scenes with anal sex creates the impression that a woman wants to experience all types of orgasm, especially anal sex. Let’s look at what excites a woman when stimulating the anus. Anal sex is something that a certain number of people have tried; some of them continue to practice it, while others only dream. Sex is even more exciting when it is diverse and a partner can fulfill your most immodest wishes. Sexual pleasure depends on our openness. Anal stimulation is most affected. Anal sex is not only an opportunity to try something new; it is a special kind of relaxation, trust and courage. First of all, these are various barriers that can increase feelings during anal contact in both women and men.

Is it okay to walk exercise with butt plug on? Many women expect that when they stimulate the anus with their finger or erotic toys, they can get an anal orgasm. This is quite possible, but unlikely. Some women can achieve anal orgasm even when their partner just caresses her hips. In order to understand why anal stimulation is so pleasant, you can refresh your knowledge with anatomy. The female sphincter is very sensitive and literally filled with nerve endings, the stimulation of which provides physical satisfaction. The only problem is that the rectum is a very sensitive organ and any injuries and wounds heal very poorly, so before anal contact it is important to take care of lubrication and choose the correct posture. All steps of both partners must be thought out. The big advantage is the proximity of the female anus with the vagina,

Perhaps the biggest obstacle in anal sex is hygiene. The reason, for which it is desirable to adhere to the maximum purity during anal contact, is known to all. Before you engage in this type of sex, you must take a shower and thoroughly wash the anus with antibacterial soap. Another recommendation for anal sex is to avoid alternating anal, oral and vaginal sex. Since the transfer of rectal bacteria can reward a woman with a serious illness, even if the partner uses a condom.

If a woman does not have any experience in anal sex, you should not expect that you will achieve an orgasm on the first attempt. The female sphincter automatically pushes everything that tries to penetrate the anus. A woman should be completely relaxed and use a sufficient amount of lubricant. The psychological state is still the number one priority. At the very first penetration is not desirable to use toys. Even with good lubrication and well-chosen posture, you can feel unpleasant pressure. In order to get maximum pleasure and reach orgasm, you need to do everything slowly, while communicating with a partner. With painful sensations, further manipulation is desirable to stop. There is nothing to worry about if you try to use a finger, butt plug, a small vibrator or an external prostate massager like this one here instead of the penis in order to achieve orgasm. The sphincter must become accustomed to previously unknown sensations.

You can get the first results in a few days or weeks with regular contact. It will be useful for women to know that there are special lubricating gels for anal sex, which relax muscles and ensure long-lasting hydration, which greatly increases the chances of getting an anal orgasm. On an orgasm during anal sex women lay legends. The truth is one – to get anal orgasm is quite real. For some, this kind of contact is one of the best experiences in their sex lives, for others it is just a pleasant feeling.

12 New Sex Positions To Try

A new month is a time for new things – which can include sex.

Whether it’s bringing the spark back to a stale bedroom or trying something different for shits and giggles, there are literally hundreds of new sex positions to choose from.

BUT…

While things like the “helicopter” might bring you bragging rights, for most people, it will probably result in a trip to the chiropractor or hospital. So, here are some more gentle (but still fun) options for you to experiment with – one new one for each month of the year.

Enjoy!

SIDE NOTE: Rather than saying “man/woman” for the logistics of each position, I’m going to say the “giver/receiver”. We don’t exclude same-sex couples here.

 

1. THE CLIT MISSION


 

WHAT: Also known as the Coital Alignment Technique or “CAT”. There are long-ass paragraphs explaining each step to each movement. Honestly, the entire thing ends up reading like a pretty bland medical essay, so here’s the basic rub…

HOW: Start in a basic missionary, but the Giver leans upward and rocks back and forth instead of thrusting up and down. If you still don’t understand what’s going on, just remember, you’re using your pelvis to maintain the back-and-forth contact with the Receiver’s clit.

WHY: Most women can’t reach orgasm with internal stimulation – they need clitoral attention. This way, you both share in the pleasure.

 

2. THE “T”


 

 

WHAT: Sometimes called “Afternoon Delight” (although it sounds like a kind of tea brand).

HOW: The Giver lays on their side. The Receiver lays on their back at a 90-degree angle, legs draped over their partner’s body – essentially creating a T shape.

WHY: It’s great if you have little to energy but are still randy or you want to play for a long time. It’s also great if you want to experiment with anal.

 

3. GIRL ON TOP


 

 

HUH?  Okay, there are so many variants of this position that to name all the aliases would get confusing. There are also different names if the “woman” is on top sitting straight vs bending forwards vs turned around. Jeez.

HOW: Let’s keep things simple. The Giver lays on their back, phallus ready. The Receiver sits astride, and, if your joints can take it, lean back.

WHY: You’ll have better access to play with sex toys, clit stimulation, or different sensations while thrusting. Great if one partner has more energy than the other.

 

4. THE GALLEY


 

 

HUH? Sort of a Reverse Cowgirl idea, but with a few tweaks.

HOW? The Giver sits with legs outstretched (putting weight on either both hands or one, if you want something free to fondle with). The receiver sits on top but facing away. The tweaks? The Receiver leans forward into what’s pretty much the bottom part of a doggy style.

WHY? Better control for the top participate. Also good if one person has more energy.

 

5. THE SORT OF COWBOY


 

HUH?: The name is irrelevant, I just made it up (and the original title “the cross” brought up SO many different positions).

HOW: It’s easier just to look at a picture… BUT, take notice of the leg that’s tucked up and the near “scissor” position the couple is in.

WHY: The tucked leg allows the Giver to hold on and have better control of the thrusting. The scissoring is good if the Receiver has flexibility issues, especially around the hips.

 

6. THE BANDOLEER


 

 

GUH? One of the handful of positions that uses the same name across any book or article … or you end up with military hardware in your search results. A multi-tasking position that’s definitely worth a try.

HOW: Receiver on their back, legs tucked into their chest (or as close as possible). Giver gets on their knees, puts Receiver’s feet in his/her chest, and penetrates.

WHY: Both parties have ample control over speed and thrusting. Great for G-spot targeting or those with shorter penises or dildo strap-ons.

 

7. THE GLOWING JUNIPER


 

WHAT? Another Kama Sutra name that makes no sense. But I do dig this position even though it requires some maneuvering to get into it.

HOW: Giver sits, legs extended. Receiver lays on their back, legs apart, knees bent, and the Receiver between his/her legs.

WHY: A relaxing position that leaves the Receiver’s hands (and mouth) free to do anything and everything – including wrapping their arms around the Giver’s hips, lifting, and engaging in some fantastic penetration.

 

8. THE SPHINX


 

WHAT: Think doggy style but with a pinch of scissoring and a tad more bending. It can be as simple or as complicated as you want.

HOW: Version one is like doggy style, but the tweak is the Giver only puts one knee between the Receiver’s legs (instead of both in between or outside). Version tow, the Receiver puts themselves into a frog or “Sphinx” crouch. The Giver can instead lean forward until they are nearly laying down.

WHY: Great for deep penetration. But the Giver will get tired faster than other positions.

 

9. THE COLUMN


 

WHAT: You don’t have to spend all your sexy tie laying down. Get freaky while standing up.

HOW: Both parties stand up, Giver facing away from the Receiver, who wrapped their arms around their partner and penetrates from behind.

WHY: Different sensations mixed with the intimacy of an embrace.

 

10. THE PROPOSAL


 

WHAT: This is one naming convention I can get behind because it actually tells you how to do it. The one catch is this position works best if both people are relatively the same height.

HOW: Both parties get on one knee but mirroring each other (so if the Giver is down on their right knee, the Receiver is on their left). Maneuver into penetration and enjoy.

WHY: Just to try something new.

 

11. THE RIGHT ANGLE


 

 

WHAT: Time to make use of your kitchen table or similarly tall and flat surfaces.

HOW: Receiver lays on an (e.g.) table with their butt near the edge. Giver gets in between the Receiver’s legs and penetrates.

WHY: Intense pleasure possibilities. Hands are free for other stimulation. If the Giver has knee issues, standing can sometimes be easier on their legs. Also, this position is great if the Receiver is a woman and she can squeeze her Kegel muscles.

 

12. THE AMAZON


 

WHAT: Make use of more furniture in your home.

HOW: Find a stool or. The Giver sits, and the Receiver sits on the erection or dildo while facing their partner. BUT, you’ll need something the right height – enough that the person on top can plant their feet firmly on the floor.

WHY: Gives you a fantastic workout and facing your lover is always intimate (aka lots of kissing).

 

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What sexy things do you do for the new year? Share in the comments!

Kegel Exercises Tips To Improve Your Pelvic Floor Muscles

Kegel exercises – aka Kegels or Pelvic Floor Muscle Exercises – might be the brunt of many porn jokes, but they are actually as important as any other exercise.

Why?

Let’s start with not peeing or popping your pants.

Now that I have your attention, let’s begin…

 

THE MAN BEHIND THE SQUEEZE


 

Kegels were developed in the late 1940s by an American gynecologist – Dr. Arnold H. Kegel. The idea was to give men and woman a way to deal with incontinence without having to go under the knife.

He also invented the “Perineometer”, which was a device that helped measure the strength of the muscle contractions.

 

WHY IT’S NEEDED


 

 

This part of the body is like a hammock that goes from your front pelvic bone back to the tail bone. It holds your bladder, uterus, colon, prostate etc. The urethra and last part of your waste track pass through this hammock.

It’s the reason you can control whether you go to the bathroom on the toilet or all over the floor of Walmart.

 

REASONS THINGS CAN GET WEAK AND LEAKY


 

  • Being pregnant/having a child
  • Being overweight
  • Having surgery in that part of the body
  • Heavying lifting
  • Constant coughing (like from smoker’s cough etc.)
  • Nerve or brain disorders
  • Getting older
  • Just because

 

With the exception of childbirth, these conditions affect men as well.

Any of these situations might make it that your underwear ends up damp or dirty. There is even a condition that affects some women that when they cough, sneeze or laugh, a little bit of pee comes out.

SIDE NOTE – Good Kegels means easier childbirth.

FINDING THE SWEET SPOT


 

Imagine you’re trying to stop urination mid-flow – what you’re flexing is your PC muscles.

However, Keep your other muscles relaxed! Don’t flex your abs, butt, or legs. Also, don’t lift your pelvic area while doing it. Don’t hold your breath – keep breathing while your flex!

If you still have no idea if you’re going things correctly…

Stick a finger up there.

Seriously.

 

If you’re a woman, slide a finger up your vagina and squeeze like you’re trying to stop peeing. You should feel the muscles flex around your finger and “move up and down”. For men, stick a finger up the bum (yeah, get over it) and try to “stop peeing” (don’t flex your bum hole). You should feel the muscles contract up and down.

 

HOW TO DO KEGEL EXERCISES


 

1. Make sure your bladder is empty

2. Sit down or lie on your back (on your back might be easier if you’re new to Kegel’s)

3. Find your PC muscles and tighten them

4. Hold for X-seconds and then relax for X-seconds

5. Do X-repetitions

What’s X?

 

Every site will give you different numbers – it’s rather annoying. The one thing I will say is that if you’re not used to them, START LOW. No one goes to the gym with un-exercises arms and tries to do 100 bench presses the first go.

A nice medium between all the different site data is around 3-5 second flex with a 3-5 second rest (do this 10 times). Your total “flex count” is somewhere between 30 to 40 spread across the day. So, 10 in the morning, 10 in the afternoon, and 10 in the evening.

Your end goal is being able to hold it for 10 seconds with a rest of 10 seconds (still with 30-40 spread across the day).

FAST VS SLOW TWITCHES


 

Some resources suggest two different versions of Kegel flexes – either for different situations (quick to try and stop leakage and slow to build muscles) or just to diversify your exercises.

While the long versions are the method we talked about before (hold for 10 and relax for 10), the quick flexes are around 2-3 seconds with a 2-3 second rest.

 

OTHER IMPORTANT DETAILS


 

  • Quality is better than quantity!
  • Slow build up your rep lengths
  • You’ll see noticeable results in around 2 to 3 months but it may take longer to achieve the results you hope for.
  • If you’re having problems try Kegel balls or speak to your doctor (there are devices that give biofeedback that can help you).
  • Don’t do Kegel’s when you’re actually trying to pee – long-term, it can have a damaging effect on your PC muscles and possibly kidneys.
  • Doing Kegel’s incorrectly or with too much force can force vagina muscles to get TOO tight.
  • If your incontinence is serious, you might have to do these exercises for the rest of your life.

Mardi Gras Sex Tips

Fat Tuesday – the day before lent and the last opportunity to gouge, merry-make, and be gluttonous before the religious and ceremonial-laced fast.

And boobs.

Here’s what you should know in regards to Mardi Gras sex.

 

EXPECTATIONS VS REALITY


 

People expect a wild party with copious amounts of booze, boobs, and free sex (probably because of the booze and lowered inhibitions). The biggest (or not biggest) surprise is … excessive drinking will be your worse enemy during this festival.

First and foremost, too much hooch impairs your ability to consent to sex. It also screws your ability to make good choices (whatever they may be) when it comes to STD/STI protection (pun intended) and flashing your body parts in front of the cameras.

After that, many people underestimate the crowds. New Orleans is a small city of a few hundred thousand, but it explodes to over a million for a couple of days. This means large swaths of drunken people between you and where you want to go.

You’ll probably spend more time trying to find a bathroom and waiting for an Uber than hooking up. And forget the hotels, many are booked months in advance – and the Bourbon Street balconies booked upwards of 5 years in advance.

ARE YOU GONNA GET LAID?


 

There are plenty of percentages flying around the internet, but the general idea is a large chunk of guys expect to get laid in some way during this night of debauchery. Many women, on the other hand, don’t think they’re going to hook up with someone now. One side over-hopes and the other under-predicts.

Any surveys have been informal and the only serious studies are things related to HIV transmission during the event.

It’s not to say that there aren’t sexy opportunities, but you should probably keep your expectations low.

 

STRIPPERS VS HOOKERS


 

This one is interesting.

On any other day, working girls and guys experience their average highs and lows of weekdays vs. weekends etc. But around Mardi Gras, it’s a whole different story.

Apparently, most hookers stay home whereas strippers are working 15+ hour shifts that day. The thought is that people come for the party and the hope of free sex – not paying for an escort or hooker (which is usually higher business during offseason with businessmen or other travelers).

But even with the strippers, the bulk of traffic stays to the cheap clubs. People spending tons on vacation and drinks don’t have the green for expensive lap dances. Also, if you DO end up with a 4 am lap dance, don’t be butthurt if she/he doesn’t seem that into it. Chances are, she/he is exhausted.

 

THE MONEY GRAB


 

Let’s face it. Tourist flock to a destination and that destination is going to find ways to squeeze as much money out of you as possible – that’s tourism, that’s business.

But, Mardi Gras is a special beast.

The local police department (apparently famous for being racist and corrupt) along with a local religious group, use the day to crack down on adult clubs in the name of “freeing girls from trafficking”.

They cite old, ridiculous laws – from stage height measurements and rules that say performers aren’t allowed “to touch their breasts or buttocks” – and then slap the club with a HUGE fine. They ignore any woman that says they are there because they choose to be and pull them away trying to “save them”.

And, if the club can’t pay, they shut it down until they can (making the establishment lose out on thousands of dollars or more).

None of this on any other day, mind you. Just the day where there are the most money present and the police department can make the most.

After that, there are the sexy yet aggressive “drink girls” who try to shove shots down your throat to make you rack up a couple-hundred-dollar bill while flirting with you.

DANGERS, PROBLEMS & WAYS TO PREPARE


 

1. Getting caught on camera

There is a real chance your boob flash will end up on someone’s smartphone, which could end up on PornHub. If this is something that could affect you, best to keep the girls under wraps. You’ll still get plenty of beads.

 

2. Stranger sex

There’s nothing wrong with a random hook up. Just remember to carry plenty of protection choices (from condoms to dental dams). If you’re worried about drunken flings, ladies, take initiative and wear a female condom. Bring them ahead of time too, it will be harder (or impossible) to buy them during the event.

 

3. Drinking dangers

There’s the obvious – alcohol poisoning, rape drugs, being robbed etc. The easiest solution is twofold. One, stick to one or two drinks and just enjoy the party. Two, have a buddy system and take a friend with you. Also, if a “drink girl” tries to push a shot on you, you can politely say no. It’s okay.

 

4. You’re in the wrong place!

The carnival and parades spread across the whole city – and 99% of the events are geared towards families – yes, it’s first and foremost considered a family event.  This means that 99% of the time, the debauched, drunk, nakedness you imagine will land you in jail. So, keep any flashing to the Quarter.

 

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Any other tips about Mardi Gras sex? Share in the comments!

Best Dildos for Men

Do men use dildos? Well, it’s true that dildos are especially a favorite of women but men use dildos too. And by men, we don’t mean just gay or homosexual men. A lot of straight male swear by dildos when it sex toy plays. Yes, you heard it right. While dildos are great for G-spot stimulation, these are excellent for a fulfilling anal play as well. Then, men also use dildos for prostate stimulation that reward them with a panoramic orgasmic pleasure.

What dildos do men use?

Men generally use two types of dildos. One is anal dildo and the other is double ended dildo.

Anal dildo

Anal dildos are somewhat different from regular dildos as they are specifically designed for anal use. These are slimmer in comparison to other dildos to allow easy penetration into the anal region. Moreover, a flared base is another important characteristic feature of an anal dildo. The flared base assures security and ensures the toy doesn’t get lost inside the body. It’s hard to find anal dildo in dildo section. Instead, you will usually find an anal dildo in anal toy zones.

Double ended dildo

As the name says, a double ended dildo is a one that comes with two ends. These dildos are mostly common with lesbian women but men can use them too. If you are a man, you can use it alone, with a woman or with another man. When you are using it with a man, both of you can enjoy a fulfilling anal play thanks to the dual ends. If you are using with a woman, you can insert one end in your anus and another in her vagina or anus. It’s true that women are in a better place to explore double ended dildo but men too can have an awesome time with it.

You have double ended dildos with vibrators too which will be especially wonderful when you are with a female partner.

Understand the right size

The size of a dildo plays a great role in determining your experience and safety with the dildo. The perfect one will be neither too big nor too little. The classic cucumber test will be handy here. But you have to cucumbers in various sizes. Peel them up & wrap them in condom. Now, insert each one of them one by one and see which one feels the most comfortable. The one which is more satisfying is the size that you want for your dildo. On an average, a dildo with 5” length and 1.5” thickness will be great especially if you are a beginner.

Know the materials

Anal and double ended dildos are available in various materials. It’s important to have a fair understanding of the different materials before you go out to buy a one.

Jelly

If you want an affordable option, jelly dildos will be the thing for you. These are extremely flexible and are excellent especially when you are beginner. But, it’s to not here that jelly is a porous material and hence slightly tough to clean. You can start your dildo journey with a jelly dildo and then gradually shift to other hard nonporous materials.

Cyberskin or softskin

If you are looking for a realistic feel with your dildo, it’s better to go for Cyberskin/Softskin toys. It’s wonderfully a realistic material which comes with the perfect mix of flexibility and firmness to emulate the ideal feel of a penis. So, if you are really missing your partner, a realistic cyberskin dildo will make your day. But once again, the cyberskin option is porous and it’s best to wrap it in condom while using it.

Glass

Glass dildos are made from borosilicate glass and are extremely hardy and lasting. thanks to their robust and firm design, glass toys are just the thing you need when you want a solid thrust on your back.  Then, glass dildos embody a smooth surface which makes them really convenient for easy insertion. On top of that, glass dildos can be used both cold and hot. You will glad to know, glass dildos are always easily cleanable. So, if you want a solid, powerful and no-fuss anal dildo, glass will be a great option.

Metal

Similar to glass options, metal ones too are excellent for solid thrust on your anal region. Their super smooth surface always assures convenient penetration. But since metals are heavy, it’s better to use them once you get familiar with the game.

Silicone

Dildos made with silicon are undoubtedly the most popular. Silicone is flexible, non-toxic and fast adapts to user’s body temperature and ensures a wonderful experience. Most importantly, these are the safest of all dildos.

Curved dildos

As mentioned previously, men use dildos mostly for anal fun and prostate stimulation. Thus, when you are a man looking for a dildo, it’s better to go for a one with curved shape. The curved part assures easier reach to prostate gland so that you can relish an amazing stimulation in a jiffy.

Finally, always make sure to buy your dildo from a reputed adult toy shop.